Before you act, make sure you have a safe place to go, and when initiating the breakup, have a witness, invite a friend over so it’s not one on one. Have them record if it’s that bad. That way you have evidence in case it escalates which is terrible to say but I’ve been in an abusive situation before and the abuser always turns it on the abused, gaslighting and lying to make you feel bad. I was drugged and assaulted numerous times by a family member and I finally broke free and without my witness I would have been falsely accused of what they did to me. The cops don’t need to get involved BUT it’s leverage, if you feel your life is in danger absolutely, for protection if anything. Don’t ever feel your life isn’t worth it, that’s your abuser talking, you are worth it, you are enough. Time to get out and be your best you. Good luck, OP.
01/07/22
Yup. I think you have to make a plan over time, with the aim of just disappearing from his life completely, one day out of the blue. Just act normal but start organising a getaway, an initial destination in which to settle which is not immediately obvious like your parent's house. Start informing yourself about maybe getting a new identity or a private investigator to protect you. But the short answer is - don't give him a clue and just vanish one day as he least suspects it.
01/07/22
Yes. At tough cases like these you have to get a restraining order.
01/07/22
Gather evidence. Take photos. Start telling people. The police are your friends, they’ll protect you but you have to do your part so they can do their job. They can’t just arrest people without evidence
01/07/22
someone will, maybe not the first cop or person you reach out to, but someone like me would
01/07/22
Yes call the police, a lawyer, social helpers hotline
01/07/22
just stab him in the heart and claim it was self defense (cuz it is)
01/07/22
If you are a women look for some organization that runs a safehouse. If you are a man you are fucked
01/07/22