I remember my gf talking to my family saying that i never talk about my feelings or things that bother me. My father and grandfather literally said that’s how we are.
Dude, I've been struggling my entire lifetime woth this...
Even have a therapist to help me deal with this, luckily my wife understands and is supportive of me...
my mom argues back she's not yelling, she's using a louder voice. I also remember my mom often canceling plans if we were being "bad" now if she needs help with things I'll help out but if I do things "wrong" and she starts "using her loud voice" I immediately stop helping and go back to doing what I was doing and say I'm not helping.
Imagine being a toddler and your parents sit you down to informe you that uncle Ron caught aunt Becky having an orgy with 5 midgets and 2 poneis, and thats why your cousins will be moving far away. You know, just so secrets arent kept from a toddler to not make things awkward.
well i got through my work a cummunikation curse thingi ,and well i got it so far that my parents dont argue about everything anymore wich is nice , now they speak like normal people without letting escalte it to death
when I was a kid and teenager my parents were always screaming, blaming me for everything, guilt tripping me, everything was enough to get hours of drama and screams.
even the most stupid innofensive things, like asking "can I get the green t shirt instead of the white one?" or "some classmates are going to the movies, can I go?" was enough to get me in trouble and hours of "HOW CAN YOU DO THIS TO MEEEEE!!!!".
other typical screams were "WE DIDN'T TEACH YOU THAT!!!! WHO TOLD YOU TO SAY THAT???!!! WHO ARE YOU TRYING TO COPY!!!!", "WHAT ARE THEY GOING TO THINK?!!!" ("they" could be other people, neighbours, the rest of the family, random people on the streets, I don't know).
I'm not exagerating or joking.
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